True love… who can find it?

What love is and what love is not

I think true love is that which exist  between two individuals who come together having decided to commit their lives to one another and decided to live as one. I think that the two will then give up their rights for the sake of each other. I think that people in love have similar views on important matters and that is what will make them a perfect couple. I think that true love enables people from different cultural or racial backgrounds to come together and become one. I think that true love can only be interpreted by the two that have been drawn to one another and cannot  be compared or imitated. I believe that the principles that people have can draw them together and be the foundation for trust.

I believe that trust is the glue that binds two lovers but like money I also think that trust does not grow on trees but is it is something that one perpetually works hard to earn. You cannot say that one must trust you simply because you are in a relationship with them or you are doing nothing wrong. You must always work  hard to present reliable evidence that make the other individual feel at peace. You cannot hang around with suspicious people at suspicious places and still expect to be trusted.

I think that true love has got no strings attached. Love the person and not what they can offer you. This is the biggest problem that people are facing especially  in developing countries. People involve themselves with  others for wrong reasons. There are people with gusts. A person can say yes because they want someone to feed them and they even reach a point where they get married. When one has eaten and they are full that is when they  start looking for the one they love and thus start cheating.

Finding love is as difficult as finding the drop of water that you just dropped into a cup full of water. If you have tried finding love and have failed I am sure that you can agree with me that it is only God that can guide you to the right person. I used to think that by being a good man you can attract good women but experience proved me wrong. The other thing is that,  you may find a good woman but she might not be attracted or interested in you. On the other hand, the person that might love you might not have the qualities you need.

I mentioned the group of people that may involve themselves with others for financial reasons. There is also another bad group that involves themselves with others because of physical looks just to use them especially sexually. This is what we refer to as infatuation. These are the people that will flatter you and tell you how beautiful you are. They will tell you about love at first sight. They will tell you about the colour of your eyes, your height,  the texture of your skin and your blonde hair but nothing about your character. They will treat you like a sex object and once you give them sex then they leave and then come back when they   want it again. Some of them leave for good once the results of their action come out e.g pregnancy.

We need to have our eyes opened inorder for us to see true love and to also see what it is not. We also need to be patient and to seek divine intervention because we do not have the right verification skills to be able to identify true love when it comes our way. It is only God who can do it for us. He who finds a wife finds a good thing that is what the bible say but a wife can only come from God. I do not care how much money you have, how decent you think you are, or how fine you look without God you can only go through a series of heartbreaks till the day you relocate to the cemetery. You can call men dogs if you like but still that will not help.

It is only God that can help us. Let us stop acting smart. It is only God that can lead you to the person who is going to love you the way you are. Even if you have a pathetic history God can help you. He is the one who initiated this. Let us stop acting like we invented love. God is love. He is the creator of love. He initiated relationships.

Why Christians must avoid media that are not Bible oriented…..

The devil uses media platforms that are not bible oriented to desensitise Christians’ minds by exposing them to evil things on a regular basis. What ends up happening when the mind of a Christian has been desensitised is that they begin to condone things that they are not supposed to condoned by them.

It is therefore wise to continuously expose yourself to the right media and feed your mind with bible based material. You must be careful to avoid media or material that twist the truth to accommodate evil.

Please be safe. Remember it is better to struggle to live according to the Will of God but having full knowledge of what it is, than to think that you are living according to the Will of God when what you think to be the will of God are just lies that the devil has sold you through desensitisation.

Training children

I do not have a child yet but I remember how my parents raised me up. I love my parents for the very very things I hated them when I was growing up. I am glad that they did not let me have my way when I was young. I thank them for training and for correcting me. I thank them for saying “no” more often than they said “yes” to the things I wanted. I thank them for being strict. I thank them for the way they behaved themselves and how they treated others within the society. I did not just watch them but I imitated them. I paid more attention to what they did than what they said. It was easy to remember what I saw them doing than what they said I was supposed to do. I thank my father for taking full responsibility for all our financial needs. That is something that I am imitating today.

I am also grateful for the opportunity to go to church at a tender age of thirteen. I am grateful that even at church we were allowed to sit in the pews at the same time with the adults and listen to the gospel. I am glad that I had an opportunity to listen to the gospel that was being preached even to the adults and not the stories that most people read to children which to them sound like fairy tales. I gave my life to Jesus at the age of thirteen because of being involved with the adults and being allowed to listen to the gospel as it is. I was made to understand at a tender age the seriousness of the gospel of Jesus Christ. I became so much afraid of sinning that even when the devil presented me with an opportunity to sleep with a girl I said no. I started at a tender age of thirteen to make decisions to stay away from all sorts of bad things for the fear of disappointing God and also for the fear of going to hell.

I am not perfect but I am grateful to God for the way I was raised. What seemed unfair or like abuse was in actual fact all working for my good. I am thankful that I was told about the enemy at a tender age and also equipped with the sword to fight the enemy. I am glad I was not treated like a child. I was told that there is a real enemy waiting to destroy my life and I was given a weapon (The Word of God ). A weapon that knows no age. When the devil came to my life to present beer, drugs, cigarettes and opportunities for sex he didn’t wait until I became an adult but he came when I was still a child. The devil used to sneak when my parents or teachers where not around but I had Jesus, the Word of God plus, the the fear of disappointing God….not only that, I was also afraid of going to hell because I had been told already that I would go there if I do something that does not please God. So I turned down the devil.

I hope that by sharing my story I am going to help a parent out there. A parent who wants her child to walk with Jesus and overcome the enemy. Many people today are blaming teachers and the devil for the things that they are actually responsible for. Some parents blame peer pressure. That is wrong. If children are taught about Jesus and trained well they can resist peer pressure. Just stop treating them like children when it comes to the Word of God and training. Children are in a better position to believe when the gospel is being preached than adults.

Please read the scriptures below. They save as confirmation of what I have just said.

Proverbs 22, 6: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Bible (KJV)

Hebrews 12, 11: Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. Bible (KJV)

Game of chess

Life is like a game of chess. You may play your game very well but one wrong decision can cost you. One wrong move can make you lose the game instantly.

As you play the game you cannot see the thoughts of your opponent. As we live we cannot see the devil and his thoughts.

The bible says:

Ephesians 6, 12: For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Bible (KJV)

Therefore, it is important to rely on God inorder for us to win. God can see what we cannot see. He also has the power and ability to fight our battles and win.

The same bible also says:

Proverbs 3, 5: Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. Bible (KJV)

Proverbs 3, 6: In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Bible (KJV)

Proverbs 3, 7: Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. Bible (KJV)

Proverbs 3, 13: Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. Bible (KJV)

Proverbs 3, 14: For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold. Bible (KJV)

Enemies of Success

I would like to take this opportunity to talk about only three things that can stop someone on the road of success. They can prevent you from getting what you want in life or becoming who you should be. They can stop you from discovering who you really are. They can lock you up in the prison of poverty if you let them.

They could be more but I just want to bring to your attention the following three enemies of success:
Comfort, Fear and Pride.


Do not allow yourself to become too comfortable to contemplate your next move. No one is invincible you can be replaced anytime no matter how good you are. So you must work hard to improve yourself and also plan for your future. Do not wait until you lose your job to start a new business. Business needs patience. It is very difficult to have patience if you lose your job unexpectedly. If you are running a business and are doing well do not relax. Competition can easily boot you out of business. Competition can come up with a better product or similar product at a better price. So you must not allow yourself to become comfortable as if it is illegal for other businesses to approach your customers with a better offer. You must think about and plan for the future.


Fear is one of the worst enemies of success and it can keep you in the prison of poverty until you die. Do not be afraid of failing or anything. Try and if you fail try again. Make up your mind never to stop trying until you make it. Your desire to succeed must outweigh your fear of failure. Develop and insatiable desire for success. Be courageous and resilient.


This is also one of the worst enemies of success. Pride can assassinate your dreams if you let it. You must not for any reason think that you are better than others. You must not let pride stop you from approaching others if you need help. You may find yourself in a situation where you need to cut your expenses inorder for you to meet your goals. You may need to park your car for days and use public transport. You may need to move into a less expensive apartment to save money for your business. You may need to sell your car and buy a less expensive model. You need to reach a certain point in life where you do not care what people say or think. There are times in life when you need to humble yourself and ask for advice or help from people that are supposed to be asking for your help or advice.

Stop judging…

God sees nothing wrong in turning sinners into believers and then use them in a mighty way to to fulfill His purpose. Moses and Paul are two good examples.

The problem is that human beings find it hard not only to accept such people but to believe that God can use them.

Even when they find themselves in a situation where they need divine interference, they expect God to send angels. If God sends someone with a pathetic history that they know about they refuse to accept them. They find it hard to believe that God can use such people.

She is neither a slave nor a beggar…She is a mother…a Queen

A woman can turn herself into a beggar just to get something to feed her child. A woman can turn herself into a slave for her slave master to feed her child. A woman can sell her house to send her child to school. A woman can stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of giving life to her child. A woman would rather feed her child and sleep on an empty stomach if the food was only enough for one person. She is a mother and you can count on her.

I want to believe that the love that a mother has for her child is not natural. It is divine. I believe that it is God Himself who planted that love within her heart to protect us. I believe that God loves us through our mothers also. There is no human that can love like mother unless God is working through and within her. This love has nothing to do with the nature of a person, whether one is Christian or not. If ever there is a woman who does not love her child in a manner that I have just explained then I blame it on the devil because love for a child is part of a woman’s nature according to the way in which God created a her.

What breaks my heart to pieces is what happens to her in the end. When the very people she sacrificed her life for grow up they leave her to fend for herself. What a pity. I see people spending money like there is no tomorrow when their mothers are struggling. People sacrifice their lives to please people who showed up in their lives when they had money already forgetting the ones who sacrificed their lives for them. Mothers. She is neither a slave nor a beggar. She is a mother. She is a queen. Let us treat her accordingly. Let no devil in hell divert your focus from doing that which is right. Treat your mother like a queen because she is a queen. No wonder why God in his word say the following.

Exodus 20, 12: Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. Bible (KJV)

1 Timothy 5, 8: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. Bible (KJV)