When you cherish something you don’t kill it but rather you nurture and support it . You must water and cultivate your favourite plant. If you want love, loyalty, respect etc…then you must do something that will promote that. Your attitude towards people in most cases determine how they treat you in return. I know that there some people who will treat you bad even when you are treating them well but a bad attitude will not get you anywhere. You motivate. You don’t discourage.